Imagine going from many options to none?
I have a feeling that this is what it feels like in the movies for the guy that goes from the star high school quarterback to having nothing. It’s like having girls fight over you to going to being fat. I think?
In the last year or so, I’ve lost all of my freelancing clients. Yup! All of them. I’m left with zero clients. This is the dark side of freelancing that nobody talks about. The whole point of starting this site was to share my journey on my road to building $5,000 in freelancing income per month. I’m now back at zero. It’s like I lost a lot of weight and gained it all back. Boo!
What happens when you lose all of your clients?
You stop getting paid. Duh!
You go from managing money to having none. You go from lots of income to zero. It sucks. There’s no nice way to frame this.
When you lose your clients, you stop getting paid and you sort of freak out! Where did all of my money go? Now I might have to go out only 3 times per week. Yikes!
What’s the most important lesson?
Never EVER blame anyone else for your problems. Life is too short to feel sorry for yourself. You are responsible for everything that happens to you. Each client had a different reason for cutting ties:
- One was dropped when I asked for a raise.
- Another sold his site.
- The most recent one had to for their business to survive.
While these reasons are great, I still put the onus on myself. What could I have done differently?
The next lesson is…
You should always have a backup plan and money saved.
I’m EXTREMELY lucky. For as dumb as I can be, I’ve done a few things right.
It always sucks to lose money. It feels good to know that I’ll be okay though.
This leads to an important question.
Should you get a job?
This is a tricky one.
On one hand, you get into freelancing because you don’t want some soul-sucking job. You don’t want to be confined to the schedule of someone else. You don’t want to be told what to do. You want to live life on your own terms.
On the flip side, you need money.
There’s no way around this one. You need to have money coming in. It’s just that simple. You can read all of the Tim Ferriss that you want. You can follow your favorite lifestyle design blog and recite catch phrases all day. You have to realize that your landlord or your credit card company doesn’t give a damn about your passions. You have to pay your bills! You have to grow up sometimes.
I have applied for a few jobs and am excited to see what happens next.
How do you battle the obvious depression?
You slap it across the face.
I don’t have time to feel sorry for myself. I don’t believe in it. You always have to move on. Never let anyone ever bring you down. Life is amazing.
You help someone else out.
I mentor a few of my younger friends. I love doing this because I know how it feels to go through peaks and valleys. When you’re down, help someone else out. You’ll understand why.
Stay busy and positive.
I never drink when I’m mad. I go to the gym with my brother or my friends, I attend kickboxing classes, or I hang out with positive people.
I’m very grateful that I have an amazing group of friends and that I’ve become decently social over the last few years. I always have something to do and someone to hang out with. I don’t have time to spare making excuses.
That’s the dark side of freelancing. If I were you, I wouldn’t bet against me. I’ll be back in the winning column. You watch.